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What is a common misconception about you? "I feel like a lot of people misconstrue my niceness with weakness and that always drives me crazy, but I always just have to let it go. Anything that comes out of anyone's mouth, never has anything to do with you, even if you behaved like a bitch. The way they react is totally on them, right? So, I have to remember, if somebody's putting that on me, that's totally theirs. I come from the belief that if you are spewing shit at me, that's just like, your human personality has buildup, that's not who you really are." With that in mind, Torrey tries to handle all of her interactions through love. "Two crazies interacting with each other, where are we going to get doing that? Nowhere. People who don't understand it: 'Oh, she's weak. Like when that girl yelled at her, she didn't yell back.' It's like, 'Alright, sure.' Although, don't get me wrong, I fucking yell at people in my car all the time. I'm like, 'Fuck you!'" she laughs. "And it's crazy 'cause you do all this stuff. I mediate every morning. I go out into the world and somebody cuts me off in my car and I am the worst. I'm like, Geez, the day that I can be kind when somebody gives me road rage is the day I'll feel like I actually succeeded in something," she laughs. "Or my boyfriend will do something and all of sudden it's like I turn into a devil. I'm like, 'Torrey, go back, go back," she explains with a laugh. "So, I'm saying all these concepts that are so cool, but it is a daily practice and I am nowhere near perfection with them at all. What attracted you to your boyfriend, Jesse Lee Sofer? "Oh Jesse. Oh God, what doesn't? He's the most honest, caring person I think I've ever met. Not I think, I've ever met. He has this insane moral code that's just so beautiful. He's like nobody, especially not in this industry. Like if a ship was sinking, Jesse is the person you would want on it to help everybody. He's also very loving and very kind and he treats everybody with equal amounts of respect and he's just a really, really great person." Awe, that's a nice comment. I read an editorial that noted that you complement one another well and now I see it because of what you said about him and what I've gathered from talking to you. It sounds like a really good fit. "Awe, thank you. Yeah, he's really, he's great. He's amazing," she says with a big smile. What are you watching on TV? "Poldark, it's on Amazon. I'm such a sucker for the BBC shows. I was obsessed with Outlander and I teetered off. Poldark is even better… I feel like I drive Jesse crazy, 'cause he's a dude, he's not watching Poldark with me. I'm watching this on my own. But when he comes home I can't help but be like, 'Would you like to dine tonight?'" she asks with an accent. "And his response is literally, 'I can't with you. I need you to stop. I need you stop.'" She cracks up laughing. "That's what he says to me all the time. My favorite is when I have crystals out and I'm like, 'I'm going to watch some Poldark,' and he's like, 'I need space from you right now. I need space.'" More laughter. "It makes me laugh. But I get so invested in these shows… Jess and I actually just started watching Jack Ryan together, that's our together show, which is not as romantic as Poldark, but it's a great show." Who are you listening to? "Lately a lot of 90s music," she laughs. "I love 90s R&B and hip-hop, I think it's the best. SWV, Boyz II Men, Tupac is one of my go-tos in the morning when I need to wake up. There are two Ariana Grande songs on her new album, I've never listened to her before in my life, "No Tears Left to Cry" and "God is a Woman." I made my mom dance around the house to it when we were just together. My favorite music ever is all the girl groups from the 50s and 60s, The Shirelles, Lesley Gore. My best friend Arielle [Kebbel] is obsessed with country and she begged me to go to Stagecoach with her this year and I went 'cause I'm a good friend. She was so happy to have me there with her other best friend, Sterling. Neither Sterling or I are into country… I just had a blast seeing her in her element. I was like this is just fun because I'm watching you. Still didn't leave a country fan, but I did totally enjoy myself."